Couples Counselling

The top 21 signs that your partner doesn’t value you

Trusting your feelings is key; doubts often stem from fear of confrontation or self-deception. Listen to your body, heed the facts; don't cover cracks, confront truths.

Factors That Can Put Your Relationship into a Negative Place

In this blog article we are going to go over the most common factors that often lead to couples struggling in their relationship.

Getting to grips with our hidden sabotaging patterns

In our journey towards personal growth and success, we often encounter roadblocks. Despite our best efforts, we find ourselves stuck in self-destructive patterns that can hinder our progress in life. These sabotaging patterns are part of our subconscious minds, influencing our behaviour and choices without our awareness. 

Understanding our attachment styles

Attachment styles shape how we perceive intimacy, express emotions, and handle conflicts with partners. Developed by British psychologist John Bowlby, attachment theory states that the early bonds we form with caregivers significantly influence our adult relationships.

5 Steps to Better Emotional Intimacy

We often assume that we’re in a relationship, so we’re going to have a level of closeness with our partner. But is this always the case? Could we be in a relationship AND still feel really disconnected and lonely?

Embrace quality time with your partner

We see celebrities like David and Victoria Beckham whisking away to holiday homes in Miami or the Maldives, holidays many of us could only wish to experience. Does this lead you to wonder, would my relationship be better if I could spend more quality time with my partner like this, away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life even for just 1 week?

Quiet quitting, the silent goodbye

During a survey we carried out here at Aligned with Love, we found that over 38% of participants were actively considering breaking up with their partner. Let’s take a look at a common break-up technique that has gone viral on social media and discuss the best ways in which we believe a break-up can be carried out.

Ageless Love: The Truth About Age Gap Relationships

Age gap relationships, in particular, have become a subject of intrigue and discussion, challenging traditional notions of love, companionship, and compatibility. Can these relationships flourish despite societal norms and expectations?

Is Marriage still relevant today?

With the number of people choosing to get married at their lowest point in recorded history, we’re asking the question is marriage really worth it? 

Do open relationships really work?

In recent years, the concept of open relationships has gained significant attention and acceptance. What actually is an open relationship and do they work?

Counselling Pre-crisis?

Pre-crisis marriage counselling has been in discussion in the media recently with many celebrities raving over the positive effects. Here we examine pre-crisis therapy, so that you can consider if it is right for you.

Overwhelm of caring for our partner

How many relationships are affected by long-term illness and what do people in this situation need to consider to be able to not only support their partner but to stay in a positive place themselves?

How to avoid losing the “spark” in your relationship

The start of a relationship can be an exciting and exhilarating time. But as time goes on, the start of a relationship turns into a long-term relationship. In this article we will discuss how couples can bring back the “spark” in their relationship.

Recognising an abusive relationship

Abusive relationships can take many forms, including physical, emotional, sexual, verbal, and financial abuse, and can cause significant damage to a person’s self-esteem and mental health. Leaving an abusive relationship can be an incredibly difficult and scary process, but it is often the best thing you can do for your own safety and well-being.

When the attraction fades… Is Love really Blind?

In this blog we will discuss attraction in relationships and how we can maintain it over time. How important is it? And what do we do if the attraction we feel towards our partner is fading?

What is the #threemonthrule and does it make sense?

We all know relationships can be complicated and take a lot of work to make them really thrive in the long term. For instance we can get lazy over time, getting a bit too comfortable meaning that the magic can fade. This is a common phenomenon but when does the lack of effort and enthusiasm become problematic? 

How a failing relationship affects more than just your emotional wellbeing

Discover the far-reaching consequences of a deteriorating relationship in our latest blog post. Uncover the surprising ways it can touch every aspect of your life, from your mental and physical health to your career and social connections. Gain valuable insights into the intricate web of connections that make up our lives and learn how nurturing your relationships can be the key to a happier, more fulfilling existence.

“Glamourising love as possession”… recognising the signs that you are in a toxic relationship

One of the most common challenges that people bring along when their relationship isn’t working is that they feel that they have lost some freedom through their relationship. While we can all have different ideas about what love is, when we have different ideas to our partner it can lead us into trouble.

Broken by my failing relationship…

Things had been tough in my failing relationship with my partner (now ex-partner) for a while and I was starting to really question myself… Maybe there was some truth in this shaming and name calling, and it really WAS all about me.

Thinking of breaking up… Should I stay or should I go?

When we have reasons for staying as well as for leaving we start thinking of breaking up. We start  wondering “Should I stay or should I go?

Are you being ABUSED or MANIPULATED?

From the work that Matt & I do with couples, we have extracted the Top 7 most common manipulative patterns that you can encounter in an intimate relationship. How can you tell if you are being ABUSED or MANIPULATED?

Relationship feeling like a lonely place to be?

Is your once-thriving relationship now a lonely, isolated space? Join us in this insightful blog post where we navigate the complexities of feeling alone in a partnership. Discover practical tips and heartfelt advice on reconnecting with your partner, rekindling the flames of intimacy, and transforming your relationship into a source of genuine companionship and fulfillment. Don't let loneliness define your love story – find the path to reconnection today.

Three Steps to Enhanced Charisma (for MEN)

When our clients are reaching out for relationship therapy to turn around their struggling or stagnant relationship, one of the most commonly reported challenges is where it’s reported that while they get along ok, any spark or magic feels like a distant memory, they feel the lack of their enhanced charisma.

“How do I deal with my wife when she is angry?”

What is the best way to deal with my wife when she reacts like an angry bully? How to deal with a wife that is always angry?

How to fix a broken relationship?

In this enlightening blog post, we delve into the art of repairing a broken relationship. Whether you're facing communication issues, trust issues, or simply feeling disconnected, we've got you covered with expert insights and practical strategies. Learn how to rebuild trust, rekindle the spark, and create a stronger, more loving connection with your partner. It's never too late to mend what's broken – discover the path to a healthier, happier relationship today.

Tips on how to build RAPPORT with your partner!

Losing rapport with the people around us will not only stunt the development of our intimate relationship but also our career or business life too. Read this article to find out the tips on how to build RAPPORT with your partner or anyone else!

How to Save a Relationship?

The stakes are high, so what can we do to untangle the situation and to start to make sense of it?

The Top 3 Signs of a TOXIC relationship

When we lose something of ourself in the relationship, this tends to create resentment and unhappiness.

Who are you dating?

My bed was asking me to stay, but I went to the gym because I had a date with my body.